With the increasingly cynical view of board regulars lately, I felt it appropriate to share recent events in my life that may provide some perspective.
About this time last year, I visited this board for the first time in preparation for my first AC trip. My wife and I were planning some much needed time away, and the advice and cordial, well-meaning jabs back and forth made us that much more comfortable with our choice.
We hung out at BCs, traveled to Xunantunich, did cave tubing, met Simon, Paisano, and Julia (the fruit lady). Mostly, our very quick 5-day trip consisted of food, drink, and good times – all accentuated by the good people on the board and their advice.
Since our return, work has gotten increasingly stressful, the children increasingly busy, and our finances increasingly tight. The resulting tensions were brought to bear on our marriage and we sought help from a counselor this past winter. Times have been tough and the counseling didn’t help as much as we would have liked. We have come to accept “quality time” as a myth and that nothing can substitute for “real time” spent – perhaps doing nothing, but always together.
We were upset to hear of Paisano’s passing. We were introduced to Paisano at BCs. We traded stories with a lovely lady named Lacy who called Paisano over when we talked about my father-in-law’s need for a walking stick. Paisano sold us his. We drank a little too much and subsequently left it at the bar. Regret that deeply as it would have been something tangible to stoke such wonderful memories. This board kept us in-tune with conversation about Paisano.
Then came Julia. My wife and I bought fruit from her and truly enjoyed her company during our walk about town. I don’t think it’s coincidence that of all those we bought things from, we both remember her vividly. Our time was brief but obviously profound as her accident touched us deeply.
We talked some more.
It was the memories of our trip to AC, brought alive through this board that made the difference. Belize is magical alone in itself, but without this board and the good people here that advise, inform, cajole, and yes – occasionally ridicule, my wife and I would not have been granted the perspective we needed to make it through some tough times. I don’t know how close we came to permanent damage to our relationship, but had you all not been here, I fear the worst may have come to pass.
These still aren’t the best of times. As such, I don’t know if we will make it back to AC soon. We do, however, pray for God’s blessings for each of you as you have truly blessed us.
From the bottom of my heart – Thank You!
I will have a Belikin -- put it on klcman's tab.