Thanks Scuba. Our oldest son worries us more than our younger - he was exposed to her drinking for, obviously, a couple more years. Neithor will have anything to do with her - a decision they made years ago. We did a lot of family therapy the first 2 years we were together - hoping to give them as many tools possible to make the right decisions.

good for u nova... u're trying to make a difference!

Personally i think anything can become an addiction and i don't just mean alcohol or drugs... just ppl do need to know when to stop before it leads to harming them and their families! everybody will have thier own opinon on addictions and some ppl need to seek help in their own way... SOME ppl do not try to do anything for themselves b/c some are waiting for the help to come to them, not all mind u but some...

A close family friend, he's like a father to me, has gone for help and doing the change on his own and with family support, and for him right now it's water on the rocks! I'm so proud of him that he has finally taken those steps to better himself... he wants to see his grandchildren grow up!
It's definately tough to watch ppl u love go through that but sometimes u need to intervene and sometimes u can't...

ida - agree about anything becoming an addiction - got a call from a friend a week ago - his wife ran up yet another credit card to the tune of 7 grand in less than a year. Seems she did it a $1 scratch card at a time. And nothing to show for it, of course!

Good to hear about your friend going for help - no-one can do it for them, they have to make that decision and take those steps themselves.

Thanks everyone for the kind words.