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#226646 - 01/12/07 11:00 PM Marriage: Not So Sacred Anymore
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from a friend:

This is truly an interesting article to be read and there are many examples of this in our Belizean society.

Marriage: Not So Sacred Anymore
By: Raisa Staine
“They say it takes a village to raise a child. That may be the case, but the truth is, it takes a lot of solid, stable marriages to create a village”

- Diane Solle, smartmarriages.com

Once, every young girl’s dream was to get married, start a family, watch that family grow, and finally, see a new generation come about. Now, it appears something has gone wrong. The fairytale ending that so many wanted seems like nothing more than a script from a storybook not rooted in our reality. What is rather interesting is the fact that these same young girls who wanted the picture perfect ending are the ones who are ruining the picture.

On numerous occasions, I have been in the presence of grown and otherwise settled women whose hearts have been broken because of a cheating husband. After listening to them, I realize that it is not that the husband cheated that brings the pain. It is who he cheated with and why that angers and hurts more. Women tend to always say, “Get somebody better than I am.” and they mean it. If the husband gets a woman that is better than his wife in any way, the wife will at least know where she was lacking. But when the husband picks up an apparently ordinary girl, he is blatantly disrespecting his wife. No reason at all justifies his action and that lack of reason is what fuels the anger many married women have.

It is shameful that young girls, no older than nineteen or twenty years sometimes, make a living out of playing with married men. They parade our streets well-dressed and heads high. And then they are those who think that these girls are cute. Those who sit around and listen as they give vivid accounts of the havoc they have wreaked in the families they stepped into, without even stopping to let these heartless females know what they are doing is not even remotely right, and those who aid in harassing the wives and kids. All that is bad! Most embarrassing though, are the men –committed men, often much older, and supposedly more mature. It amazes me that they encourage and frequently are the ones who initiate the communication that leads to further interaction with these “little” girls.

A lot of girls have grown up without fathers for varying reasons, neglect being the most common. Subconsciously, they fall for these men who have sweet words, a “lil” extra cash and lots of attention to give because in some foolish way, these men tend to represent that missing link called “dad” in their lives. With that in mind, perhaps the first time a girl facilitates a cheating man can be excused. The second time she does it can be deemed a mistake and the third time as intentional.

If my point seems unclear, what I am saying is this: Married women, make home a happy, peaceful and enjoyable place. Young girls, respect and honor the vows that were made before the church and do not encourage married men to “come out and play”, above all, respect yourself! You are better than being number two. Married men, honor and love your wife, hold the vows you made very high, keep them sacred and please, leave us alone. Give young girls a chance to grow and make mistakes of our own. Admire us from afar, and keep your scheming thoughts private. Adults, make the marriages work and set examples, for the young people, worth following. Prove that marriage, despite its thorns, can be bliss.

#227541 - 01/20/07 04:28 PM Re: Marriage: Not So Sacred Anymore [Re: Marty]
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Sure - blame the woman. Absolute claptrap. Shame on the men who cannot keep their Johnson's at bay. Why is there such a huge per capita aids rate down here - selfishness. Why should women have to carry the "moral" burden and why should men be excused for what amounts to some terrible, irresponsible behaviors?

Thank god not all men are jerks nor all young ladies trying to climb the f**k ladder.


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