I also had a mother with demensia, at age 84 I had to put her in a nursing home as I had two young children and had to work, my husband also disabled. She went down hill rather quickly being in the home. I wish I had been able to bring her here. She would have done much better. I could have afforded a care giver of quality, I think that you may do well with her here. You may consider coming and getting where you will live and who and what you would need to care for her here, trying to get things like that set up could be stressful for your Mom. Folks with demensia do suffer from stress, sitting and watching the Caribbean Sea is a much better life than looking at Hospital walls. For both of you. Best of luck to you.