Wow, sweetjane, you really are a mom. I agree with every word you said. As a mom, you are right on target. As a romantic, you want it to work out and they live happily ever after. If we were in a perfect world, huh?
As a nurse, my concern of the "fling" is are you protected if you went that far? You know there are "gifts" out there that will kill you, so be safe. Not judging, but being concerned.