Mrs. Texas get off your high horse. You say no one has tried to help but yet Uncle Buck has tried to get a hold of West Side and passed on the message. ALSO if your brother stayed at his cousins place can you not call the cousin and ask him to pass on the message.
There has been no problem with the members of this board. Don't forget other than a few of us. Most people on this board do not live on AC so therefore are not able to track down West Side.
No one has discouraged your search. Most have tried to look out for you not knowing either party and suggested that you come down and get to know him better. Not to put him to be something he can not ever live up to.
You know he has a child and maybe just maybe he is busy working trying to support that child.