We too are considering escaping America before the bars go up. = )
We have a similar problem inthat we have 3 dogs, one elderly. I just can't put her in a cargo hold and she is too big to buy a ticket for on a regular airline. So we will probably drive. The other two are 'special' children too. One is neurotic and the other was a shelter dog so he gets nervous over loud noises. All over 40 lbs. Any suggestions?

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