As a teen growing up we had a neighbor who the birds would flock to. He taught me how, it takes much patience and time, every day stand near the feeder, stock still, as they feed, after a couple of weeks move closer. In time you are standing right next to the feeder, now start holding your hand cuped upwards. After a few days put seed in your hand, after a few days to a week or so they will eat from your hand, soon they will flock to you as you approach the feeder. I used to love the chickadees in NJ crawling all over me for food. It is quite an experience.