Perhaps we don't always have the time to read every post on the board and some slip through the net.
If you ask someone a point blank question, face to face, you will most likely receive a candid response.
But you can't expect people to be willing to malign others in a public Internet forum and you can't challenge people to answer your demands to air their
personal business on a message board. I don't think Andy even visits this board....
When somewhen tells me that they have made a decision or a choice I don't feel it is right to tell that person that I think they are wrong, unless they ask me straight up.
We live on an island, a very small community. You gotta be willing and able to defend any remarks and opinions you might make that affect someone else's love life or ability to make a living! And seriously, take a step back and gauge whether or not it is your business or your place to make such judgement calls.
And what are your motives?
We all have an agenda.
I love the tv's Dr House - "Everybody lies" catch phrase. We all manipulate things around us to suit our needs and goals. It is human nature. But stop and think about why you feel driven to say some things.
I am guilty of having an opinion on just about everything. But I am willing to say such things face to face and defend my position.