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How do you feel about aging?

Posted By: azbob

How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 05:34 PM

I can't take credit for writing this but it fits my feeling perfectily. I have only changed and/or added a few words:

The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know.

Old Age, I decided, is a gift.

I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, the sagging butt and big belly. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my Dad!), but I don't agonize over those things for long.
I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that tool I didn't need, but I can find it. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60&70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit on Ambergris Caye that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old.

I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it)

MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART!
MAY YOU ALWAYS HAVE A RAINBOW OF SMILES ON YOUR FACE AND IN YOUR HEART FOREVER AND EVER!

FRIENDS FOREVER!

Posted By: Bobber

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 06:15 PM

azbob, which I assume stands for bob in AZ, you exhibit true bob-ish qualities. As I sneak up on 60, this philosophy above is what keeps me from even considering feeling sorry for myself. I have gained so much over the years that it would be foolish to mourn what little I have lost (heck, if a mile really needs to be run, I'll HIRE someone to do it). I have wisdom (such as it is) I have friends (not just "current" friends) I don't spend a lot of money following fashion trends (I probably still have a leftover current trend in my wardrobe). I care less what people think of shallow thoughts. Hey, I'm happier than I have ever been. I have those that love me, for whatever reason, and those I love.
I wonder sometimes what the younger or more vain think of us when we smile at them. Little do they know. He he he. smile
Posted By: Ernie B

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 06:24 PM

Geeze Bobber, you look a lot older than 60 and your memory IS slipping! grin
Posted By: Bobber

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 06:26 PM

E, don't force me to hire someone to come over there and kick your butt. smile
Posted By: Ernie B

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 06:32 PM

OK laugh
Posted By: Nova

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 06:44 PM

LOLOL @ Bobber! Good one! grin
Posted By: azbob

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 07:05 PM

Bobber, you are right on! I'm sneaking up on the 65th happily and looking forward to spending that B'day on AC 3/3/08. I have followed the "boarding" with great interest and pleasure and hope to meet all of you.

By the way, Bobber, AZBob does stand for Arizona Bob. You already had the best one, so this was all that was left. Also, I DON'T THINK I NEED BEERS. I KNOW I NEED BEERS!!!!!
Posted By: Sun&sand

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 09:33 PM

Beautifully said, azbob. I agree with you 110%.
Posted By: Barnacle

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/06/07 10:01 PM

did i hear ,,BEERS?
Posted By: ScubaLdy

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 06:00 AM

I am finding real joy in telling people that I am 70. A few years back there was a fellow diving with me at Hustler who was 70 and everyone was marveling at that. Well, I finally got back in the water after my knee surgery and my buoyancy and air consumption was better than it has ever been. Iíve done 7 or 8 days of diving over the last two weeks and it was great.

About 20 years ago I said that I wanted to live to be very very old. I wanted to get to be so old I could fart anytime I wanted to. I have reached my goal.

Way to go - kids!
Posted By: Sun&sand

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 02:30 PM

Wow Harriette...you are amazing. I took you for many years younger. Way to go, girl!
Posted By: elbert

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 03:22 PM

LOL at the old age privileges Harriette.
I've got a tip for the guys, plucking you ears takes years of you appearance;-)
Posted By: Scuba do

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 03:27 PM

Harriette-good to hear you are back diving--although we have many dives together, you are normally at a greater depth than I,looking for a good photo--that's concerning after reading your post--and it also explains all those extra bubbles...Happy 70th...see you next month.
Posted By: tacogirl

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 03:39 PM

Harriette I would not have guessed you for 70

Fountain of youth is in San Pedro

I can say life at 40 is way more exciting and fun that it was at 20
Posted By: azbob

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 03:57 PM

ScubaLdy, you are beautiful!!!!!!
Posted By: Danny2

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 04:33 PM

Bobber, I think your frontal lobes are shrinking early. Your having way too much fun.
Posted By: Wealthy Buyer

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 05:20 PM

I asked my daddy and mummy how they felt about growing
old and my mummy said that her secret was to keep lots
of strips of cloth wound tightly around her body so that
no one could see her aging skin.

Posted By: Rykat

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 05:23 PM

ah ha!!! No I know what "leave only bubbles" means!!!:-)
Posted By: azbob

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 05:24 PM

Ah, you mummies are all alike: very, very old and all wrapped up.
Posted By: JRinSC

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 05:37 PM

You guys are great!! Bobber & AZBob, I just turned 60 this year and although I am on a strict diet until the 15th of this month, the diet is not for looks --- I just don't want to buy new shorts!!

Hope to meet some of you down there soon!!


Posted By: Bobber

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 06:08 PM

Hey Rykat, anything special you want for Christmas? Like maybe, this?

http://hillarynutcracker.com/

Anyhow, 60 is the new 58.5 smile
Posted By: Danny2

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 07:07 PM


that link is the best in a long time. Thanks, I'm sending that on.
Posted By: elbert

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 07:08 PM

Bobber you may need to warn people about your high volume hyperlinks, I just opened that and the ladies next door jumped up to see what I was playing:-)NWS
Posted By: elbert

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 07:13 PM

but that was funny
Posted By: Bobber

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 07:29 PM

Sorry. At the office I keep the sound way down and headphones plugged in. smile
Posted By: azbob

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 07:30 PM

Great site Bobber, it will make the perfect Christmas gift for a selected few.
Posted By: divingcowgirl

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 07:35 PM

Gawd that was funny! hmmmm wondering who I can send that to?
Posted By: Leah-Ann

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 08:20 PM

Gee Bobber, if that's what Santa's bringing to the Rykats of the world, I'm a little nervous about what I'm going to find 'neath my tree! laugh
Posted By: iluvbelize

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 10:08 PM

That is hilarious! If only she'd stick to just that and stay outta sight!
Posted By: Bobber

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 10:19 PM

Leah Ann, there are toys for boys and toys for girls. smile

Have you been good? Have you been bad? People are watching you. smile

Have a good weekend, friend.
Posted By: ScubaLdy

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/07/07 11:06 PM

This sure makes me wish I could get the sound back on my computer.
Posted By: indygal

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/08/07 03:21 AM

I have watched my 81 year old aunts and marvel that they both don't like to be around old people - they are not old in their minds. They are both still working and sharp of mind. Wish they could hear a bit better, but other wise 81 is looking pretty good.
Posted By: crockhunter

Re: How do you feel about aging? - 12/08/07 03:32 PM

At a few days under 60, my only comment is, growing older beats the hell out of the alternative!
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