I came to live in San Pedro since February. When I arrived I met one of my friends which I was going to school with and she offered me help. Months later I met this Englishman. I was with this guy for over three months. The man had a lot of money but believe me Doctor I love this man. Although people use to tell me to never get in love with foreigners I still did. Now my so call good friend slept with the man without I knowing, being a hypocrite, talking to me and visiting me and my friend at the hotel where he was staying and also going with me me to my hometown and sleep on my bed. Weeks after the man left the island and I found out about my friends unloyal friendship I told her not to talk to me anymore because he was a hypocrite. She turn back and told me I was the hypocrite 'cause the man has gone and I don't want to be her friend. She told me that the man was not value nothing 'cause he's gone. Doctor I loved this man with all my heart. I never fell in love before and because I still love him I cannot forgive my friend. I would like your advice if I should give her another break.
Still in love
Dear In Love,
When someone who claims to be a friend sleeps with someone you love, the feelings of betrayal are hard to overcome. On the other hand, good friends are rare and it always hurts to lose one. Perhaps there is a way to look at the situation that will make it easier to keep your friendship alive.
Try thinking of it this way. Unless your friend is much bigger and stronger than this Englishman, he went into the situation willingly. Chances are good that he even initiated the action. Put it this way; your friend was not alone in that bed and it took two people to betray you.This does not excuse your friend's behavior at all, but perhaps she does have a point about the value of this man's love. No matter how much he may have been tempted, he should have resisted. Your friendship has been devaluated, likewise. No matter how much she may have been tempted, she should have resisted.
Dear Doctor Love,
This is a subject which no one in my family wants to talk about, but I feel like it has to be mentioned. My father is getting to be very old and no one wants to discuss what we will do about burying him when he dies. I say we should take up a collection now between his children and the grandchildren so we can be prepared for his funeral. No one else wants to discuss it because they think the subject shouldn't come up until he passes away. What if it happens at the same time as another emergency? I say it's best to be prepared. Also, let me say that this is not about inheritance because my father has already given the children all of his property. Also, he is too old to get an insurance policy.
What do you think?
You have an excellent point. Preparation is always preferable to scrambling about at the last minute looking for funds. Unfortunately, most families are squeamish about that kind of thing. You go right ahead and put your share aside now and don't say anything to the rest of the family. At least you'll be ready.
It is so good to have a week of good weather after the terrible rain we had in mid-November. Now, I'm not one to complain but we got more rain than we deserved last month. We also got a lot less than we needed back in May. Why do you suppose this is? Don't scientists seed the clouds like they used to do in the 1960's to make it rain? What is going on?
Did you read the article about the depletion of the ozone layer in last week's San Pedro Sun? Believe the Doctor, it definitely has a bearing on the crazy weather the world has been experiencing in the last few years. Even if legislation from all of the major countries in the world does take effect it looks as though ozone depletion won't be under control until the middle of the next century.
It could be worse than it is now. Remember,even bad weather is better than no weather.
Dear Doctor Love,
Things have not been going very well for me lately. I am beginning to think that someone has done obeah on me or something. Do you think there is any such thing as good and bad luck? Can it be changed?
A great poet once said that shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe in cause and effect. Emerson was right; luck is an individual thing that each of us create for ourselves. The Doctor is also familiar with the saying - The harder I work, the luckier I get. If you believe you are unlucky and sit around hoping your luck will change, you can bet your luck will stay bad. If you get out and work hard, you can bet your luck will change for the better.
Dear Doctor Love,
There are a lot of crazy people on this island. I moved here last year and thought it was because people are so different than they are in Cayo. Now I know better. There are also some people that are really rude, especially young men. Sometimes I am afraid to pass the places where they are hanging around because of the things they say to me. Why do they let crazy people out on the streets, here instead of keeping them locked up?
An old saying on this island is that we have just as many crazy people as the mainland. We just aren't ashamed of them. Don't worry about the rude boys. They're just little boys with big radios who want to be men.