Doctor Love

The Island Newspaper, Ambergris Caye, Belize            Vol. 12, No. 44            November 14, 2002

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Dr. Love is the island's and possibly the world's greatest authority on just about everything. The Doctor answers questions on almost anything except religion and politics. Persons needing additional assistance or counseling should contact the Family Services Division at 227-7451.

    You may write to the Doctor at P.O. Box 35, San Pedro Town, Belize, e-mail at or fax 226-2905.

Dear Doctor Love,

    Every time I sit down to watch my novela at night my husband switches the TV channel. I have to go over and watch it at my sister's house if I want to see it because he says that he is not having that kind of stuff in his house. He thinks I should not be watching the novelas because he says it puts all kind of ideas in my head. I watch them just for fun and because it is good to see that other people have problems, too. I don't see anything wrong with it. He says it is a waste of time. Even when I leave he does not watch the TV. He turns it off and it is just sitting there. I think this is very unfair. I think football is a waste of time to watch on TV but I do not try to make him turn it off. How can I convince him that novelas are not bad, just fun to watch?

/s/ Novela Watcher

Dear Watcher,

     Your best bet is to try to get another TV from somewhere. In the Doctor's house, the rules are: no football on the Doctor's TV. That is why there are two televisions.

Dear Doctor Love,

    I cannot find a bathing suit in my size anywhere in this country. All of the bikinis in the boutiques here are made for women who must have legs like sticks. Just because I am bigger than some women does not mean that I should not be allowed to wear a bikini. There are a lot of men who think big women are sexy.

    I just want to go on record and say to the shop owners that they should start stocking things for large women like me.

/s/ Large and Sexy

Dear Large,

    Are you sure you checked all of the shops? The Doctor has seen some good-sized bikinis in some of those boutiques. Maybe its a cultural thing. Shops are stocked mostly for tourists and tourist women seem to run in smaller sizes than locals.

Dear Doctor Love,

    The road to my house in San Juan has huge holes. They can break a golf cart spring very easy. I know because I had to have mine fixed. Why does the town council spend all of that time and money scraping only the main streets? We pay taxes on everything that we buy. Some of that money should go to fixing our streets, too. Just because we live in San Juan area does not mean that we should be last to get our street fixed.

/s/ Unsigned

Dear Unsigned,

    Don't worry. It is almost election time. All the roads will be scraped soon.

Dear Doctor Love,

    It is Sunday evening and the cable television stations have been off for nearly two hours. We are used to having the television go off when there is a power outage but someone usually resets it as soon as the power comes back on, except on Sundays.

     One Sunday I was watching a football game that I had been waiting all week to see. Of course, I missed it. Missing a game is only an inconvenience. The last time this happened on a Sunday afternoon though, it was at the tail end of the hurricane season. A hurricane was moving in the Caribbean and our television was off from early Sunday afternoon until Monday morning. We had no way of knowing whether the hurricane was coming our way or not.

    I feel that the cable operators fall into the same category as other public utilities. They have a responsibility to the people that they are charging for twenty-four hour service. If we pay them money they owe us the service. It is as simple as that. When there is a problem that affects the people who put money in their pockets the company owes their customers the courtesy of trying to fix the problem. If the electricity goes out, BEL has people on the job immediately trying to fix the problem. The cable company will not respond on Sunday.

    My guess is that they have no one to answer to except themselves. As a monopoly they do not feel like they have to do anything they do not want to do. BTL made the same mistake in treating their customers like so much garbage. Now, they have competition on the mainland. I know that on the mainland some towns have managed to get their cable operators changed because of poor service.

    In the U.S., satellite television has proven itself as a successful alternative to cable. We need someone in this country to sell us satellite dishes at a reasonable price. I would buy one tomorrow.

    My guess is that the cable station operators are out partying on Sundays and could care less whether the 10,000 people on this island have television to watch. Do you think I am correct in assuming this?

/s/ Seriously Pissed

Dear Serious,

    Whoa! Hold on. Take a deep breath and relax. This must have been a really important football game that you missed. After all, as you said, it was just an inconvenience. It wasn't a life threatening experience.

    In spite of your complaints, you must admit that overall, we enjoy excellent service from our cable company. We get a lot of premium channels but most important of all, it keeps the population down. If we didn't have cable TV to keep people occupied at night, this island would be over run with pickneys.

Dear Doctor Love,

    I would like to find out what my husband is up to when he says he is out with the guys for a drink. Sometimes he doesn't come home until late, late and he smells more like cheap perfume than alcohol. He says it is because the waitress in the place where he goes with his friends is always teasing him and hugging him as a joke.

    I went to a card reader in Chetumal and she was no help. She thought I had problems trying to choose between two men. My problem is to be able to find the one I have and find out what he is doing.

    Do you think it would help to see a psychic? I need to find out whether this man is cheating on me. It would also do me some good in the boledo if I knew what numbers to pick. But that makes me wonder about psychics. If a psychic is really good wouldn't she win the boledo every week?

/s/ Unsigned

Dear Unsigned,

    If your man comes home late, smelling like cheap perfume, you do not need a psychic to know what he is up to. Save your money or play it on the boledo. Your chances are a lot better.

    Now a real psychic could help you with the boledo. The Doctor believes wholeheartedly in psychics but only if they are chosen correctly. The only way to choose a psychic is to tell no one that you are looking for one. If a psychic is really good they will know you have a problem and find you.

Dear Doctor,

    If I graduate this year from San Pedro High I will be the first person from my family to graduate from high school. My family has not tried to hold me back but they have not been very helpful either. It is because I am a girl. They seem to think that it is nice that I graduate but I do not really need it because I will probably just get married and have a family. I have no intention of getting married until I am ready and I do not feel like I will be ready until I have been educated as much as I can. My mother understands this but my dad and my sister say it is just because I have not met the right man yet. Well, I think I have probably met the right man about three or four times already. At least, they seem to think so. I like guys but I do not feel like I am ready to be tied to a husband. When you have a husband he always wants a family.

    I would like to go to college but I don't think I will be able to support it. My dad is already talking about when I get out of school it will be time to start paying rent like my sister and her husband do. My brother and his family live with us and they pay rent, too. I think that if I start  college I am going to get nothing but trouble from all of them but my mother. If my brother had graduated from high school and wanted to go on to college they would have supported him, but he already had a girl pregnant and he dropped out to go to work.

    I don't think any of this is fair but I am looking for a way to continue going to school. The way it is today you have to be a high school graduate just to work in a boutique. I want something more than this.

    Please help me with some ideas.

/s/ I'm Just A Girl

Dear Girl,

    The first and most obvious way is to search for a scholarship of some kind. There are scholarship programs available in Belize. Start researching them now so you can be prepared to apply for them when the time comes.

    Another possibility that should never be counted out is plain old work. If you must, get a job at night to support yourself and go to college in the day. This is the old-fashioned way but it still works. It just takes a tremendous amount of self-discipline.

    Another option is to serve in the armed forces of the United States. Many successful Belizeans have chosen this route. You can attend classes while you are serving and learn a useful skill. When you get out they will provide money for your education.

Dear Doctor Love,

    When I was a little girl my mother would not let us go out on October 31st because that was supposed to be the night that the spirits walk. All of our windows and doors were closed at dark and we were not even allowed to look outside. In the last few years we have gotten away from this tradition even though the old people knew that this was a time of year for bad luck. Now I see all of the bad luck we have had on this island this year at this time and it makes me wonder if the old people weren't right. I don't think we had things like this happening to us back then. Maybe we should just think of October as a bad time and all stay home.

/s/ Unsigned

Dear Unsigned,

    Don't be ridiculous. You are talking of nothing but superstition and everyone knows it is bad luck to be superstitious.
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