Rod,
You're sentiment is the very thing I am most afraid of. I HATE that people have not been taught to be gracious "guests". Naturally, you have been taught to be a gracious "host" but you expect the same in return. I know how you must feel. Rest assured, not ALL of us are that way. All I can do here is sincerely apologize for all the mean spirited, arrogant, rude, drunken, dim wits that are out there, and let you know from my heart that I dearly love your country and it's people and will always discourage that behavior. My Mom is from the Caribbean. When we were there as children, we got backhanded for being rude and had to use our best manners. Wish all did.