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There is so often an ongoing dilemma in life as to whether the truth at all costs is the best policy, or if the feelings of the person with whom one is conversing should be paramount when answering questions?

Anyone who is married or in a long term relationship will be acutely aware of this minefield!

To me, quiet time is when I can read undisturbed: to my lovely wife Mrs Pug, quiet time is when she can hit me with an unending stream of unconnected thoughts and questions in an effort to disrupt whatever it is I am obviously planning if I am sitting quietly

Dilemma is as follows: Do I take time away from my book to say "No, those battered Brockolini do not look like the sort of food I would enjoy for dinner" or do I just grunt and say " yes, looks great".

Yes. I got it wrong, an inherent problem with appeasement, by the way!

Just when I was expecting food, a strange plate of Zucchini, Brockalini and Courgettes, all battered in some sort of ground up cos cos was presented with a flourish and great pride.....

This morning she is speaking to me again, but last night was tense.

Jane was convinced I didn't love her anymore and refused to talk to me, which is apparently meant to be some sort of punishment, so please don't ever let her know otherwise

Bruce our Aussie Shepherd (I know there are way to many Bruce/Jane combinations on this board!) was totally confused. The best part of dinner from a canine point of view is getting to lick leftovers from dad's beard and mustache, and I really wish I'd had a camera to capture his expression!

Dad, WTF? Brockalini?

This morning I had sausages

Jane is again twittering while I read

This morning my dog is happy!

Pug,

You need to watch out, that stuff gives a dog WICKED gas!

Anyone who is married or in a long term relationship will be acutely aware of this minefield!
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Pug: Looks to me like you aren't just navigating the minefield, but also poking the mines with a stick.

Good luck.

btw, I truly enjoy reading many of your posts as they are quite comical and/or thoughtful/thought provoking. Thanks.

i strongly suggest you re-arrange your reading time to be while Jane is asleep. that is assuming you really mean 'quiet time'.

otherwise, any time a man is sitting still is a good time for wives to see them as a 'captive audience'. the bathroom is a wonderful example of this

Janie, serious? While he's "sitting still" in the bathroom? Yikes! not my choice of either time or place for a conversation of any substance!

I am a really good cook, but everyone can have an off day. When first married I prepared a dinner that didn't turn out so well. My husband's oh-so-graceful response was "You don't have to make that again." I think they call it tact...

Pug, we are never right, no matter the issue or subject. All of the men, who have been or are married, sympathize. I faced that many times over my "married time of life", but never got it RIGHT! Probably why I'm divorced. Good luck: may the Gods smile down on you and bless you with understanding, or just make you Psychic!

azbob, sorry to hear of your experience I hope you don't think it's really like that for all men - or that it takes psychic abilities. Understanding, a willingness to compromise and some basic consideration generally suffice

Harry Reid/Nancy Pelosi compromise, as in "see it my way or you'll never get laid again", or real compromise where both parties learn to give a little?

OMG, a politicial marriage. Can you imagine the babies from that pair?